EMDR, Trauma & Neurodivergent-Affirming Therapy in Markham, Ontario

Trauma doesn't always look dramatic from the outside. For many people it looks like hypervigilance, shutdown, difficulty trusting, or a persistent sense that something is wrong with them — when in fact their nervous system learned, very wisely, how to survive. I work with adults navigating single-incident trauma, complex developmental trauma, relational trauma, and the particular layering of trauma that comes with immigration, legal precarity, and systemic harm. EMDR is often a central part of this work — a structured, evidence-based approach that allows the brain to process what it couldn't process at the time.

I've spent over fourteen years working with individuals with ADHD — long before it became a popular conversation — and hold the ADHD Certified Clinical Services Provider (ADHD-CCSP) designation alongside training in Autism Spectrum support (ASDCS). Neurodivergent-affirming care at Théla means we start from the premise that your brain is not broken. Therapy here focuses on understanding your nervous system, building sustainable structures, and untangling the shame and self-blame that so often accumulate over a lifetime of feeling like you should be different than you are.

I work with adults navigating anxiety, depression, OCD, emotional dysregulation, and the chronic exhaustion that comes from managing a nervous system that has been under pressure for a long time. Sessions are paced carefully, with attention to what your system can actually tolerate — and what it needs to feel safe enough to change.

Anxiety and depression are among the most common reasons people seek therapy — and among the most undertreated, because so many people have learned to manage well enough to keep functioning. If you're tired of managing and ready to actually shift something, therapy can offer more than coping strategies.

Couples therapy at Théla draws on the Gottman Method (Levels 1 & 2) and Emotionally Focused Therapy — two of the most research-supported frameworks in the field. Whether you're navigating recurring conflict, rebuilding trust after betrayal, or simply feeling more like roommates than partners, the work here is about understanding the emotional patterns beneath the surface and creating something more secure.

Major transitions — immigration, career change, loss, parenthood, relationship endings, cultural displacement — often bring identity questions that therapy is uniquely positioned to hold. This work is particularly meaningful to me given my background working with immigrant communities and individuals navigating the complexity of living between cultures.

The journey through infertility is rarely just a medical one. It can reshape how you see yourself, strain even strong relationships, and produce a kind of grief that others around you may not fully recognize or know how to hold. Bonny works with women and couples navigating infertility, IVF and assisted reproduction, pregnancy loss, and the complex emotions that arise when the path to parenthood doesn't go as expected. This work draws on trauma-informed, somatic, and grief-informed approaches — creating space for the full emotional reality of an experience that is so often discussed only in clinical or practical terms.